MY PAIN; SILENCED, NOT RELIEVED

In the most amazing place, I found a space;

In the abode of the creator, mine was joy all the way;

To him I was a blessing, one He decided to bless man with;

So I left with smiles, coming down to earth, millions of miles;

Not by your making but you kept feeling;

It felt safe in your belly, it felt so good;

Oblivious of your thoughts, I always felt warm;

Would have thought you would marvel at my presence, but it stung your essence;

Yes it came so painfully, it came suddenly;

One, in which I could not figure out the best form of resistance;

For I was brutally wounded, was not spared;

Though my pain was silenced, it was not relieved;

I was so incapable, my tears uncontrollable;

Had not seen you yet but loved you much;

My emotions were badly pierced, my dream shattered;

For I wanted to be the best gift to you and the world;

Yes my pain you silenced, but never relieved.

GIVE THE BEST TO RECEIVE THE BEST

The saying: “Give the world the best you have and the best will come back to you” is one that does not just keep you thinking and pondering but one that makes you see practically how deep and true it is. It is one in which we see and experience in all areas of our lives; spiritual, academic, emotional, social.etc. And so in a relationship between two people, this saying plays the lead role. It is everyone’s wish, dream and desire to meet the perfect person, “the best creature of God who does not have any weakness, who  is clean, pure and spotless” and who will accept and manage our faults and weaknesses.

One thing we forget is that the law to sustain a fulfilling relationship is totally different from the general law of science that says unlike poles attract and like poles repel. For a relationship, like beings attract while unlike ones certainly repel no matter how long they try to patch things up. You cannot keep wishing, dreaming and desiring to be the best if you cannot give the best. Your “best” character and life style is the only way to attract the best to you. This is because a relationship involves two people and the result can only be perfect if these two parties work hand in hand to make it fulfilling. To be the best, you have to build yourself, give what you want to have, speak the words you want to hear, make the type of sacrifice you would want to be made for your sake, walk those thousand miles you would want your partner to walk for you, appear the way you would want your partner to appear, for you are addressed the way you are dressed. Do this in all truthfulness and honesty.

 In everything, never forget to seek the help of the one who created you for in Him is beauty and perfection and you will see, feel and surely enjoy the difference. You would enjoy your relationship because it involves two people with like minds, views and character.

REBELS, REPLICA OR RESPONSIBLE?

I once stumbled upon an article with this question. It had a cartoon representation of parents and three categories of children. The first category were children of some rebellious sort, the second consisted of children who lived exactly like their parents with all their imperfections and the third category were children who lived responsible lives of their own.

One of the tasks most people would not deny being challenging is that of raising children. We all would have experienced scenes of this task being played before us as parents, children, uncles, aunts, nieces or nephews.

As parents, we have big dreams and aspirations about the individuals we would like our children to become, how much good we would be able to tell people about them and how they would make us proud. We make sure they attend the best schools we feel would provide solid grounds for our dreams about them to come true. For those of us who are professionals in our field or the “happening people” in the world of business, we want them to pursue same careers as ours so they could one day take over our business empires. One thing most people tend to forget is that every individual has a different configuration thinks differently and can never be exactly the same with some other person. They have their unique thinking pattern, what amuses us and catches our fancy might not do so much to them as more than a smile.

Some of us parents even go as far as trying to influence their choice of marriage partners, the type and kind of person they should get married to and what family background that person should come from.

In contrast, I think parents should support the line of dreams of their children not forcing theirs on them. I am not saying we should support what is not right. I would not rule out the fear that comes with the fact that a child might choose a career path that seems weird but that is where parental wisdom is given the whole stage to play its role. As a parent, you could ask the child why he or she has chosen that career path and how he or she thinks life would be good having to do that, then you carry out some researches on it as to know better what advice to give the child.

I believe having children that are responsible is best compared to having rebellious children or children that are a total replica of you even with your faults and short comings.

I am sure many of us would have had some experiences of this sort either as parents or children, I would like us to share some of this experiences.

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